Side note #1: As for us–**We have a rule of “clean” entertainment only. God’s love is our motivation, and that is the environment we have raised our kids in.No swearing or Your teenage son will likely pull away from you physically, and that is normal, albeit painful. Though I did not go into that on each point, it is just a natural part of all we do. If you’ve invested in the early years, then the doors will be open and they will trust and respect you as teenagers too.However, Bridget breaks up with Donny on the video, which leads to a feud between the Hennessys and the Doyles.Upset, Donny hitchhikes all the way to the Hennessys in the back of a pig truck to win Bridget back; however, Bridget has still not broken up with her other boyfriend, Damien.Now that my boys are developing into young-version human beings…It’s all making sense. God only knows I’ve messed up enough in every other stage, and I only hope they can forget about my mistakes. Today my son becomes a teenager, and tomorrow he’ll be packing for college (God willing. Between conversations with other moms, plenty of books on the subject, and talking to my boys directly, I have come up with what I think are the eleven most important things… Make them clear and consistent, and have absolute consequences in place for when they break rules. Even the quietest ones will open up when given the chance. They get a lot more of an idea about what is right, wrong, good and bad from what you do than what you say. No, you’ll never be perfect, and you can tell your kid that–but don’t use that fact as an excuse to be lame. If you teach them to speak well of others, make sure you do the same. To listen, or discipline.share a joke, or a hug…you need to be in close proximity to your kids.
When one of my boys come out laughing and want me to watch a funny Vine or You Tube Video, I drop everything for it. They are going to mess up so much you’ll wonder where you went wrong. Consequences may be in order, but so is a whole lot of grace. Keep it relevant, and as brief as possible, but when you see them facing forks in the road, go ahead and speak some good solid words of advice to them. And the thing with parenting is–you’re never really sure when they’ll need you. I should add here that my husband and I are Christians, and our faith is woven into every item I listed above.
Meanwhile, as she waits for the results of her pregnancy test, Cate is stunned and angry when Paul, Bridget, Kerry and Rory seem more concerned about how the baby could disrupt their lives than the blessed event itself.