I’m planning to return to the States soon & apply for a fiance or K-1 visa. We don’t look at dogs and say ewww it’s from Germany ! And as my book reads a flower in the city which is about this very same topic . Marriage is for the devoted and strong and the ones who found that special someone to share life with and love no matter the circumstances ! We are still young and we all go to bed saying I love you and I tell my kids the reason why some people are bullies is because they aren’t happy at home ! I too asked God to send someone but he was not from America. Reply Your viewpoint on the international marriages is profoundness.I happen to have an immigration attorney friend whose been warning me of the high failure rate between Dominican & American marriages. Your kids will be more understanding to others and less racist ! With animals we think owww how cute but with humans we can’t even look each other in the eye if our color/looks are different ! If they were they wouldn’t care about what others are doing specially if they are happy . Don’t worry so much about who you marry but why you are marrying ! I totally trust God’s decision on who He found for me. Yes with the love and respect between both of you is more important. The Asian cultures have more disciplined on the children of learning and to become sussessful. We had a lot deferent appinions but the end of the day we try to take what ever it is right and common sense. International marriage certainly is difficult, as is marriage in general, but it becomes especially difficult when your partner’s theory of integration means “think, eat, breath like you’re one them”. I have learned many things from him, and there are so many things I like/prefer about living here, but I suspect that I have never been able to teach my partner anything; that perhaps there is another way of dealing then the manner derived from his cultural background.Good luck to everyone with international marriages.I think apart from all these enlisted problems, it can be really rewarding and interesting – but everyone needs to be veeeery aware of these difficulties before entering.There will never be a time when we are close to his family as well as mine. Things just feel a little less warm and comforting when our holiday traditions disappear. However, there are times when our cultural differences rub one another the wrong way. My husband is completely fluent in English yet he can still feel out of place when he hangs out with a bunch of Americans using slang and subtle cultural references. My husband had to listen to my complaints (for a long time) about how different life was in Germany.The cultural idiosyncrasies of my husband that I love the most can also cause me the most frustration when I’m not at my best (and mine can do the same to him! I can’t even imagine what it is like for couples who don’t speak each other’s languages! Then I had to listen to the same from him when we moved to the States.I have to readjust to my country which has enourmously changed in 9 years, find a job and live with my parents.
My relationship with my husband has been the most wonderful experience in my life. Corey Heller is the founder of Multilingual Living and the Editor-In-Chief/Publisher of Multilingual Living Magazine.
The knowledge of this weighs heavy on me from time to time. I can’t remember the last time we took a long vacation that didn’t have as its core visiting family members.