When we got back to my home he cried and said he wanted out, so I hugged him goodbye and let him go. You gave him several of chances, it didn't work, delete his number from your phone, and get over it. Second, you would benefit from deciding what is wrong in your life that would ever allow you to be in pain or seek comfort in any one, then find a way to have that comfort in yourself.He called the night before Thanksgiving and asked me to go with him to his family's, and I did. But I am so hurt that he is looking for someone else. This happened because there is something better for you out there... As long as you continueto let him come and go as he pleases he will keep doing it. It was not until I startede loving me more than I loved him that I was able to move on. Third, develop love that supports you alone, even if it means being alone forever.The next morning he called crying again saying he needed to be alone, he is angry with the world and hurting people around him, stated he needed time. I wish we could have taken it slow from the beginning. But what about the future, am I crazy to think we could have one? We haven't spoken since he called asking to be alone, I sent him a message saying I was sorry to bother him, but I was watching a show we watched together and I was missing him, he has never responded! Fourth, When you have stabilized yourself, have your very own love, find some one to SHARE it with, not to give it to and not to take from.I was hurting and wanted to read the forums so I got on POF and there he was first thing when the site came up, with chat under his name..... I am normally a very strong person and I fill like I am out of control and mourning (I fill like I am going crazy) What should I do? When you look for this individual to share your love with, make sure they have their own love to share with you as well.
He in himself is not bad, and you are not bad, but together it is bad. There is no other way to be in a happy relationship. Little empathy toward you if you continue on, without at least trying to resolve it for a date or two to set the tone. Classic situation of self-creating passion & chemistry by ignoring/down-playing the obvious Anti-chemistry. She might not be ~actively~ looking for anyone new.The thing about heartbreak is that it torpedoes into your life and you have no idea when it's going to leave. The thing about most men is they lie, and they do so all the time. Because that's the mindset many women are in after an acrimonious split.Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Honestly, why do so many people ignore warning signs and then complain when things, predictably, go bad? It must have been something, otherwise you wouldn't have kept doing it. It's ok to feel sad- in fact, there's nothing wrong with it. If you are in pain to begin with, then you will not be able to help the relationship. Not because you don't deserve love and happiness, but because they will utlimately destroy you. The issue is that a person allow them selves to be attatched to something that hurts them, and they are afraid to let go of it. Being stabbed(the physical feeling) is the first inital pain, then comes the pain of realizing(the mental awareness) you have a knife in you, then comes the truth, that you have to pull the knife out(this emotional distress).